The Children

Parents who are getting a divorce are often worried about the effect the divorce will have on their children. It is important for parents to remember that whilst they may be preoccupied with their own problems, they continue to be the most important people in their children's lives.

Children will do best if they know that their mother and father will still be their parents and remain involved with them even though the marriage is ending and the parents won't live together. Residence (formerly known as custody) disputes or pressure on a child to "choose sides" can be particularly harmful for the youngster and can add to the damage of the divorce. Research shows that children do best when parents co-operate on behalf of the child.

To minimise the trauma of bitter disputes, the Courts usually try to deal with cases concerning parents contact with their children as quickly as possible. A welfare report is prepared following which a judge will make a decision based upon all the circumstances of the case.